"I want my wife submissive but I don't want a daughter like that" Man reveals what he expects of his wife and how he's raising his daughter to be the opposite of that

A man has sparked a conversation on social media after revealing the kind of wife he wants and the kind of daughter he wants to send out into the world.

The man stated that he wants an obedient, humble, and submissive wife who never questions him, but doesn't want his daughter to be like that.

He said he is raising his daughter to be hard-headed and a menace before sending her out into the world.

He wrote: 'The wife I marry and the daughters I raise are two entirely different people with two entirely different personalities.

'I would not want a daughter like my wife.

'And I would not want a wife like my daughter.

'I want my wife humble, obedient, VERY submissive, soft-spoken, comforting, and non-confrontational.

'The kind of woman I call on the phone and say,

'"Mammie."

'"Yes, baby."

'"Where are you?"

'"I'm home, baby."

'"Okay. Please go out to the gate."

'And she doesn't ask,

'"Is there a problem?"

'"Is somebody at the gate?"

'"Are you coming back home?"

'"What am I supposed to do?"

'She just goes out to the damn gate.

'But here's the irony.

'I don't want to have a daughter like that.

'I want my daughter to be hard-headed, opinionated, confrontational, self-sufficient bee+ch.

'A complete menace to any useless man who crosses her path.

'I want the man she ends up with to understand from Day One that this is not a woman you gamble with.

'Why?

'Isn't that hypocritical? Probably.

'But I have good reason.

'I trust the kind of man I am and will continue to be. I cannot say the same for the boys other parents are raising.

'When a badly raised, low-life boy meets my daughter, I want his first reaction to be an overwhelming sense of insecurity...

'...followed by an immediate retreat.

'But my wife?

'Down-to-earth. Non-combative.

'Homely. Sweet.

'Smart. Smiley. SOFT.

'But most of all...

'She considers me her lord on this earth.

'A man who loves her, covers her, provides for her, would literally go to war at my own expense for her and our kids.

'Someone will call it hypocrisy.

'I genuinely don't care.

'Fathers and husbands are solving two completely different problems.

'As a husband, I know the kind of woman I want beside me.

'And as a father, I know the kind of woman I want to send into this world.

'Those are not the same job.

'And they don't require the same strategy.

'With the way these new-age, TikTok mothers are raising their sons...

'This is my stance.'

by Linda Ikeji at 10/07/2026 5:52 PM | Share this Story